Grey is NOT my favorite color right now! By Maree Anderson (for
Writers Gone Wild)

Hi all,
*Warning* Please do not read on if you're expecting an uplifting or humor-filled post! (In other words, I have a feeling this is going to be a bit of a "I'm feeling sorry for myself" whinge-fest. So consider yourself duly warned.)
It's like this: I'm 46 years old, and I've been going grey since my early twenties. It's hereditary for some of the women in my family. Starts out with a stripe of greys right down the middle, about where someone would part their hair, and that stripe gradually gets wider and wider. And in this age of DIY hair-dyes, it's not been too much of a drama. Heck, I've been dyeing my hair for around 25 years! But alas, now it looks very much like I might not be able to dye my hair anymore.
You see, I have a weird, unexplained, officially un-diagnosed sensitivity to chemicals. These days, it's become more like an allergy, and it's gotten so bad, I can't even use shampoo or conditioner without being affected. Which means it probably wouldn't be the smartest idea to go to the hairdresser and ask her to bleach the current darkish color from my hair and put a grey color through it.
So I'm probably going to have to do it the long way: by letting the greys grow in naturally.
I know it sounds pathetic to be feeling sorry for myself when there are so many terrible things happening to people in the world right now. Yes, it's even kinda shallow--I'll happily own that, OK?
But for me, given that I can't use toothpaste, perfume or scented lotions without my eyes puffing up and my skin breaking out in weird red patches, and that the fumes from pumping gas or the out-gassing of toner particles from my laser printer are a nightmare, and I haven't been able to use skin care or wear a skerrick of make-up for the past 8 years, being able to dye my hair was about the only thing I could do to enhance my appearance. (BTW, I used a very mild permanent color with no ammonia or other nasties, and had antihistamines at the ready in case the reaction went further than the expected slightly swollen eyes and red patches of skin.)
I've learned to live with the no make-up thing, and I don't feel self-conscious about it too often. Well, for day-to-day things, at least--parties and evening functions are a different story, of course. And the prospect of watching the current 2 inches of grey regrowth slowly inch its way down my chin-length bob? So not good for the already lowish self-esteem.
And now? The thought of socializing, or even going to my usual weekly karate and Ceroc dance sessions fills me with apathy. Frankly, I feel like total crap and I don't want to go out anywhere in public. Plus, there's the whole, OMG, what will I look like with grey hair? Will it be a "nice" grey color, or a patchy salt 'n peppery one? Will I suddenly look a whole heap older?
Might not be so bad if I could wave a magic wand and go grey overnight. (Or better still, go kinda silvery, like Jay Manuel from ANTM.)
I'm trying to figure out why I feel this way. And I think it's not only vanity, it's also a social thing. My mother only went grey in her late 60s. And she did it gradually, with the help of a hairdresser. My DH, when I broached this subject after the stint in hospital with anaphylactic shock that kicked off this whole weirdass allergy thing, opined that he thought I was far too young to go grey. And my hairdresser insisted the same thing: "Oh no, you don't want to do that at your age." (Her expression of horror kinda summed up her feelings about the idea in no uncertain terms.)
And now I've left it too late to have any kind of chemical assistance, and I have no choice in the matter. I can't enlist a hairdresser's help to do it gradually, because if I can't even handle hairspray when I get my hair cut, how on earth would I handle the chemicals that would be needed to lighten my hair before the new color is applied?
Funny how no one bats an eye when men go grey. It's "distinguished", don't you know.
Yeah. Right. There's nothing distinguished about putting up with an ever widening grey skunk-stripe for the next six months to a year until the dyed hair finally grows out. Sigh. Sure wish that pink wig of mine would stay on during a karate lesson, or when some guy does a Ceroc dip, drop or layback with me.
See? I told you it was gonna be a whinge-fest. *wry grin*
And yes, the purpose of this post is that I'm totally fishing for sympathy. Not to mention some suggestions for cool hats, and maybe even how to wear a scarf or something to hide my "problem".
Bring it on, Wild Readers. Pleeeeease?
And thanks heaps for letting me whine and get this off my chest. I love you guys!
Maree
(Who is trying really hard to imagine what this halfway decent photo someone took of me a few months ago would look like if I had grey hair.)