Posession, Kink and Only Child Syndrome

So not loving the new blogger. But I'm a professional, I'll hike up the big girl skivvys and cope.

I've been reading a lot this month. Not necessarily finishing everything but my credit card is smoking with the sheer volume of ebooks I've downloaded. You see, I read the most when I write the most and since I'm working on Zan the space pirate's story, I've been looking for the hottest erotic romances out there, to put me in the right frame of mind.

And while doing this, I've discovered something. One of the big trends with romance is Alpha male possession toward the heroine. Snarling/growling/shouting "MINE"whenever another man/were creature/ something with a woody strolls by. That happens in erotic romance but then for the sake of kink, the man is willing to share the woman with said well endowed secondary character.

Folks, I just ain't buying it. Well, I did buy it, but I don't believe it. Yes, I understand it's fantasy for the woman but when the credibility leaves so does my involvement in the story. And I think the reason this particular angle leaves me wanting is due to OCS, or Only Child Syndrome.

As an only child, the concept of "Mine" doesn't mean share. EVER. I share worth shit. That's not to say I'm not generous, but that's giving, not sharing. My glass of wine, my chocolate truffle, my man. And I am just not evolved enough to ever even want to share something I cherish. I will actually be insulted if someone who is supposed to cherish me wants to share me for the sake of an orgasm that lasts ten seconds tops. How can I believe your claim of possession when you are willing to lend out the thing you fought so hard to acquire?

There was supposed to be a menage scene in No Limits. Rhys and Zan with Gen. I couldn't bring myself to write it. Instead, I had Rhys push Gen into Zan's arms for one night as punishment for himself, a reminder that he couldn't be what she wanted. Hell, I just wanted to get Zan naked. And it's a hot scene even if I thought my heroine was a faithless skank afterward. But it's Zan, so I try not to judge.

There's supposed to be a M/M/F in No Mercy. Before Zan can get his Happily Ever After he needs to come to terms with what he did to Duffy in the short story The Ranking. And honestly I don't know if I can do it. Duffy might have to die instead to tie up that storyline. How f-ed up is that, that I have an easier time killing off characters than writing menage?

But that's who I am, and you know what? I'm okay with not being evolved. I really am. Because I have Zan. And he's MINE! You can have him when I'm done.